Here’s a thought for you.
Do you know how many times I’ve heard that? In fact, I think I have. It’s one of those things you hear in the car on the way to work or a night in the city, and then it just sits there in your head (or in someone else’s) like a bad habit, a bad habit that will probably go on and on and on until you finally give in and start taking it seriously.
I think that is a pretty fair statement, and one that could apply to so many of your habits. And yes, I believe that it is a huge part of why so many people have trouble making the transition to new years resolutions. One of the reasons I started this blog was to encourage others to give themselves a little more time to figure out how to make a change in their lives, to give themselves the extra time needed to develop the skills and confidence to make the big change.
It is a very fair statement and one that applies to so many of our habits, routines, impulses, and reactions. It’s just that our habits, routines, impulses, and reactions do not become less of a part of our lives until we’ve lost control over them.
That quote, I know, may sound a bit harsh, but it’s actually very true. For some, this is the big one. They want to change something big in their lives, and they don’t want to take time to figure out how. They want to simply do it today, or tomorrow, or this week. But to the rest of us, this isn’t the biggest one.
The point is that when we take steps to control our own behavior, we can start to learn to control our own habits, routines, impulses, and reactions. But when we dont even realize that we are doing so, we have no control over those behaviors and consequently lose control over ourselves.
The world is pretty clear what we are doing. We are trying to get a better sense of ourselves. We are trying to change our perception of ourselves, our own thoughts about what we can do, and how we can think about things in a way that is consistent with our own beliefs. We are trying to change our behavior so that we can think as a whole that we can do better.
When we think about the world today, we think very little about what we are doing.
The problem is that we have a tendency to forget what we’ve been doing for a while and thus our behavior is very out of sync. Our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs and what we do and don’t do are all very similar. We are very hard wired to think that way and consequently we tend to do what we think is best.